Maybe Only Once in Your Life. Or Maybe More.
But no matter how many times you may be a bride, seize the day.
Try on those gowns, go to trunk shows, fill your RSS feed with wedding blogs (like mine), and spend your Starbucks money on wedding magazines.
The Wedding Industrial Complex (of which I admit I’m a member. Guilty as charged.) can be a source of shock and awe, making you feel unworthy, insignificant, and (dare I say it) imperfect. But that’s exactly the opposite of how you should view it. You should approach your wedding like any other unique adventure in your life, embracing the moment and laughing off anything that seems excessive or ridiculous. This is perhaps the only day of your life when your every wish is their command, when everyone’s primary concern should be your happiness. If not, don’t invite them. They shouldn’t be there.
If you’ve never worn that white dress before in public, you won’t believe the effect it has on people. It’s like being a rock star (or a disgraced politician) without the downside (autograph hunters, paparazzi, drug dealers, tabloid reporters). You walk by and total strangers applaud. Whole gaggles of onlookers wish you health and happiness for the REST OF YOUR LIFE! Name me another day when that happens. (OK, you lottery winners can go to the back of the room.) People OOH and AAH over how gorgeous you look. You literally stop traffic. I once saw two wedding parties arrive at the same busy intersection in downtown Boston (where the drivers are, shall we say, something less than patient), and traffic stopped in all directions as the two bands of beautiful people danced and commingled and the brides high-fived each other, all in the middle of the street! The only honking was celebratory, and none of the shouts contained four letter words (except maybe L-O-V-E). Tell me something other than a Kardashian family reunion that would have the same effect. One of my favorite venues in Maine has a “Brides Crossing” sign on the street where they need to get to the waterfront. (Of course, Maine also has “Moose Crossing” signs, but I digress.)
People adore brides. Only Kate Middleton gets to be Kate Middleton every day, but you can have that one magical time when you have an inkling of what that’s like. So enjoy it, revel in it, soak in the most intense outpouring of positive energy you will ever receive. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. You’re a bride. It comes with the territory.
And it can’t last forever. Whereas Kate wakes up the next day and still sees Kate in the mirror, you will go back to being that wonderful person you were before, the one your new spouse wanted to marry. This is another reason I can’t understand the “Trash The Dress” idea. Are you kidding? If I were allowed to wear one, I would break it out every so often when the world is treating me with disrespect and watch everyone snap to attention.
There’s only one side effect to the bridal high that you have to prepare for: wedding withdrawal. I wish for all of you that your wedding really is one of the best days of your life, but be prepared to come back to earth. The limo doesn’t turn into a pumpkin at midnight, but it might as well. Once you’ve said “I do” and get back from your honeymoon: *BAM*, real life begins again. So enjoy it to the max every minute, and remember how lucky you are to have only one photographer tracking your every move. Britney envies you.